Talk Dirty to Me! Why Adding Erotic Talk to Your Relationship Can Spice Things Up!

Erotic words matter. Using your mouth and tongue to communicate erotically can elevate your sexual experience to new levels. It helps set the mood for sexual intimacy. It’s foreplay that leads to more erotic lovemaking. 

It can make your love life more exciting, creative, and fun. It creates more intimacy and improves communication. And since your most erotic sex organ is your brain, a great mind fuck with erotic talk is a perfect start for trying other things. 

The first step to starting erotic talk is to get rid of some of the pre-conceived notions about it. Things like: 

• I don’t need it
• It’s intimidating
• It’s embarrassing
• My partner will know how I feel
• My partner will judge me
• My partner won’t respect me 

Can you relate to any of them? Which one strikes a chord? Why?  Is it a story you tell yourself to prevent you from trying? 

It will be uncomfortable initially because you’re learning a new skill. The more your practice, the better you’ll get and find ways to be creative. 

Your relationship will have less: 

• Predictability
• Anxiety
• Alienation
• Frustration

And a lot more playfulness.

 Are you stuck in a rut with your lovemaking? Need variety? Erotic talk is a way to unleash the slut in you.

Think back to a time when someone talked erotically to you. How did it make you feel? 

• It’s never happened.
• It wasn’t successful.
• It freaked me out.
• It felt offensive.
• It turned me on.
• It made me climax.
• I can’t live without it.

You can use the past as a lesson in what not to do or as a model for going forward if you’re not sure where to go from here with erotic talk, no worries. Virgin talkers are our favorites.

 Reasons to Talk Erotically 

• Escape reality
• Resist sexual restraints
• Express sexual boundaries
• Change self-concept
• Influence sexual behavior
• Increase arousal
• Orgasm
• Have fun

 Who would like some of this? Would you like to feel more confident? Help give your partner a delightful surprise? Release the sexy kitten (or whatever you name it) inside of you.

Your mindset is vital to achieving erotic talk. Think about your fantasies and allow yourself to visualize them. If you’re struggling at first, become the person in your fantasy. Put on a new persona. Leave your old self behind. What would this vixen do in order to capture her partner’s attention? What would you want your partner doing to you and you to them? Would it require sex toys? Aphrodisiacs such as certain foods? Set the stage in your mind.

 Erotic Talk Exercises

 If you were granted three wishes for your lover to perform, what would they be?

 “I wish my boyfriend would lick my nipples….”

“I wish my girlfriend would suck my balls….”

 What would you wish for?

 Write down as many names as you can think of for the male and female sexual

organs. Now put them into sentences. 

Whisper your sexy sentences into your lover’s ear while kissing your partner seductively.

 The What

 Vagina: twat, cunt, pussy, hole, pink taco, petals, entrance, lips, softness, wetness, lady garden soul, labyrinth, dick milker, cock gobbler, little princess, sausage wallet

Penis: cock, arrow, baloney, woody, beaver-cleaver, schlong, sausage, pork sword, lap taffy, pecker, dick, dong, prick, bishop, trouser snake, pipe, admiral, jack hammer, love muscle

Testicles: Balls, nuts, bag, basket, eggs, cobblers, goolies, nads, man tonsils,

family jewels, bollocks, knap sack, berries, cojones, stones, marbles, fuzzy dice,

Breasts: Love sacks, milkshakes, pillows, hooters, melons, mounds, girls, twins,

bazoombas, boobies, chi-chis, ta tas, fun bags, jugs, snack trays, titties, grab bags

Pronouns

 Honey                                                                                      

Beautiful Flower

Sugar Lips

Hot Stuff

Hottie

Casanova

Don Juan

Beau

Sugar Plum

Venus

Lover

Doll Face

Beloved

Dear One

Heart’s Desire

Honey Bun

Honeybunch

Lamb

Jewel

Loveling

Pearl

Pet

My Sweet

Treasure

Master

True Love

Beautiful

Paramour

Sugar Daddy

Snookums

Beautiful Flower

Sugar Lips

Hot Stuff

Hottie

Casanova

Don Juan

Beau

Sugar Plum

Venus

Verbs

What is your body doing, and what are you doing with your body?

pulsating, throbbing, pumping, caressing, tightening, rubbing, holding,

yearning, breathing, moaning, beating, quivering, thrusting, giving,

blowing, massaging, lubing, tying, licking, kissing, playing, sucking,

jiggling, masturbating, fucking, cumming, jizzing, stroking, pulling,

pushing, squeezing, shaking, spinning, wrapping, opening, begging,

unbuttoning, fondling, arching, bending, wrestling, reaching, clawing,

biting, tugging, stretching, grabbing, gyrating, slipping, sliding,

fingering, penetrating, spreading

 Your erotic talk will be even better with the addition of adjectives and adverbs. Both are used to enhance a sentence, and by using adjectives and adverbs you bring depth to your fantasy!

Adjectives and Adverbs

Adjectives: Sexy, hot, milky, soft, smooth, wet, moist, cool, hard, tender, open,

long, wide, sticky, thick, precious, tasty, warm, deep, round, easy, radiant,

pretty, handsome, strong, curvy, delicate, sensitive, raw, dainty, hungry, honest,

squishy, clear, clean, romantic, patient, wild, horny, vivacious

Adverbs: Carefully, beautifully, patiently, superbly, magnificently, wildly,

uncontrollably, feverously, magically, sensuously, dramatically, deeply,

romantically, softly, tenderly, firmly, wonderfully, unexpectedly, spontaneously,

luckily, playfully, erotically, slowly, passionately,

What do you think your partner wants to hear that would really turn them on?

The Formula

Here is a simple formula:

Noun + Adverb + Verb + Adjective +Adjective + Noun + Verb + Adverb.

Ex. My cock wants to hastily dive into your slippery cave.

Ideas to help you start talking erotically:

• Read erotica to each other
• Listen to an erotic audio recording together
• Watch an erotic video together
• Look at an erotic magazine together
• Write erotic notes to each other
• Record an erotic message and leave it on their phone

 Practice talking erotically by describing these scenes in detail. Remember to include the who, what, when, where, why, and how. And be sure to add sensuous imagery and your five senses. Now go play!